Goodbye, Yellow Prick Road...

There seems to be a rampant uprising of the sentiment of never turning a man down for sex or else he will simply go and get it someplace else. What now?

Seriously ladies?! Seriously. This is another, not at all subtle way of relinquishing all of our power to men. They are clearly desperate for our lady bits, which should give us all the power. Go vaginas! But wait, they’ll be within their rights to cheat on us if we aren’t always ready to comply… Here’s a thought: Stop getting with married men! They’ll have no place to “go”. Or if they do go, good riddance. Problem solved.

Our duty to ourselves as women is not to be complacent for the needs of our men. Rape culture much? We all, as in all people, have trillions of cells in our bodies, full of demands, leading us to action. Eat, dispose of waste, procreate. Nature and biology have everything to do with sex drive, lending men and women alike moments of libidinous rapture. Thanks, libido! Some of us like to drive a little harder and faster and longer and need a compatible copilot, but let's be honest, no man has ever died from a stymied ejaculation. Calm down.  A woman’s “place” is not sex-ready in the kitchen.

All men care about what’s on the inside. And by inside, I mean vagina. Sounds to me like we’re in charge…

                                                    

Don't forget to roar!

                                                                        

Women’s beauty has been heralded long before languages were formed and the earliest of texts were scribed. Helen of Troy launched a thousand ships with her legendary beauty. Bruno Mars tells us that a pretty girl should never look so blue. Endless memes offer a variety of “I’m too pretty to ___”; you fill in the blank.

It’s time to start valuing women for more than their beauty, and we girls have the largest stake in this. We have a responsibility to fight for our equality and it will never come if we continue to insist on being adored for the cosmetic.

You are not too pretty to work. You aren’t. Thinking this way or feeling this way is extremely dangerous. It says to the world that beauty is the most valuable thing. That a woman who has achieved some standard of beauty has fulfilled her life’s purpose and should now find a man to belong to. He should work hard and pay all the bills and be grateful to be in your presence. Now you are a kept woman whose value relies deeply upon your man’s physical attraction to you, which is proven by science to wane over time.

You are not too pretty to be single. You aren’t. Dating is difficult and chemistry is elusive. Identities are a heavy burden and no one really has their shit together. If you’ve put all your stock in your looks, then that is all you have to offer and any man will get bored quickly.

It is reckless to suggest that pretty people deserve more than everyone else. Where is the humanity in that? Of course beauty is an asset, it would be absurd to consider otherwise, but so is intelligence, humor, honesty, and the list goes on. Women are seldom praised for any of these attributes unless they have been previously trumped by a superficial compliment. A woman should use all her assets, and the very word “use” suggests an action. So put in work. Offer up more to the pantheon of art and society than a complacent satisfaction in a surface appraisal. We are women. Hear us roar. If you want to look fabulous doing it, great, but don’t forget to roar.