Give Love, Not Power!

Ever wonder why men love bitches? It’s simple; they keep their power.

Let’s just assume that when you love someone you care about them and their needs, feelings, desires. It would be weird if you didn’t. To feel so much so strongly can make you want to share everything. To say “Here. Here is all of me.” It feels beautiful and liberating. And then terrifying, because there’s a huge difference between sharing and giving away the power. All of a sudden, you begin to have needs, to feel needy. Uh-oh. These needs create a sense of entitlement in the other person; you feel you need them and now you have rights. Wrong. You are already a complete and whole person and they are simply a new component that can add or subtract from your equation. They are a slice of life, not the main dish. This would never happen to a bitch. 

It can be difficult to distinguish between giving away love versus power. Have you ever heard the expression “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket”? Well, when you “need” someone and you make them responsible for your personal happiness in life, now you have put all your eggs in one basket. More specifically, you have burdened the person you love to carry all of your eggs. And your basket. How awful. Not just for they who now have the considerable load, but for you as well, for giving it all away. That would never happen to a bitch.

Keep your damn eggs to yourself. You keep all your power, which is what attracted that person to you in the first place. You get to walk down the road a little way, side by side, and though any time and length together brings its gifts, that certain someone is entirely more likely to walk further with you if they aren’t doing all the heavy lifting. 

Love with abandon, show up to the dance, be vulnerable, and do belly flops off the high dive, but bear your own burdens. Be like two, distinct rivers flowing independently that join in a mutual union without one sucking all the water out from the other. And whatever you do, don’t let those bitches have all the fun!